Category: the Rant Board
OK, so because I posted my MSN info on my profile, am I going to attract everyone who is bored or lonely to add me? Does the fact that I might not have anything in common with those who add me matter, or am I just another warm body to fill the void? This has happened twice now since I joined the Zone and I don't want it to become a pattern. People, look at my profile if you will, but add me because you might want some intelligent conversation and might have some common interests. This means you take part in the conversation and not expect me to do all the talking. Nothing's more annoying than to say things and just get one-word answers back. I don't want people to add me, only to be blocked because we really had nothing to say to each other. If you think I'm being petty, unreasonable, whining, or whatever, you may say so, but it won't change my mind here. Also, why not drop me a Quicknote or a private mail and see if I wanted to add you and tell me why you're interested.
actually. I agree. I don't mind when people add me, but you better have something decent to say.
I agree. I don't mind at all when others add me to their msn, but if u have nothing to say, why bother being on msn? I mean, if u r bored, find a hobby, take a class and do something with your time, or go get a job! Either way, do something productive with your time instead of just responding to others messages with hmmm, yeah, and stuff like that all the time. If u have nothing to say, do something that u can talk about so that u will have something to say next time u talk to people.
I agree.
I've had 2 people add me with out asking me, then they're never online and it's really annoying! If your gonna add me, at least make an effort to talk to me!
Read the profile, don't just add me for the hell of it!
Well,
I agree so far with what you have written here. I only hadthat once or twice, where where people will add me, which I don't have a problem with, but they will either message me once typing to me and never to hear from them again and not ever see them on line again, or just not really say much. I've had a couple do that, add me and never correspond with me. Granted, if you don't want this to occur, then leave your contact off your profile. I guess you wouldn't hear from people. I don't mind meeting people on line, if they have something decent to talk about. I don't add someone unless I know I would want to talk to them. The same applies to skype. I had a couple users from Here, put me on their skype list and I have yet to hear from them and I've had my profile on here now for some time. I had it on at first when Skype was new, but took it off for a while, as well as my messenger contact, but put them both back. I know what you mean.
A few of you have been talking about people who add you but either aren't on-line or might send one message. Then you've got the other end of the scale, and unfortunately I've run into it too often. This is where you've just gotten on-line and are checking e-mail or looking at a website or such, and you'll immediately get messaged, like it was urgent or like the little dialogue box that comes up when a person joins is like ringing somebody's phone. But all they want to start their urgent conversation with is "hey" or "I'm bored." Hay is for horses and I can get over being bored, how 'bout you? Hahahahahaha. How can somebody be so interested in talking to me when they have nothing to say? I know I'm out of the loop, I accept this, but I'm really missing something here. Sheesh!
well I'm sorry for ever adding you in the first place... the thing I know I'm boring... I can't be on during the week during the school year because as some of you know I'm at a school where I can't access messenger sorry for being your annoyance
I usually dont message the people on my list because i might be interrupting them in a task but you can always not except the add aka not permit uit with msn i dont care if you add me i will talk a lot but sometimes i dont know what to say so i am pretty quiet at times
I accept your apology. Guess we all live and learn sometimes. I think if somebody wants to add me, drop me a quicknote beforehand so I can get an idea of who you are and why you want to add me.
I totally agree with everyone here. I've had it so much and there's just nothing in common at all! And what I really hate - and this happens quite a bit - even with friends when they will write and say "hi" or something, and so ... it's up to me again *sigh* to keep the convo going! *grrrr* it annoys me to no end! I hardly am on there any more which is really new for me, but I'm kinda feeling a bit over it all! If I'm going to open up and say what I've been up too, everyone else needs do too. no, small talk doesn't go down well with me 24/7
thank you!
I don't go on MSN as often as I used to. I do most of my chatting with net-only friends on here now, since all but a couple of my close net friends are on here more than they are on MSN. I like it.
I love it, love it, love it, when guys add me, for the sole purpose of hitting on me? That just really irks me. Get to know me, before you try to pick up on me. So, yeah, I'm female, i'm single, BFD. I also have a kid, somewhat of a life, although not much of one these days, and I don't need a Casanova to add me to msn and expect to get some play, just because I'm female! Shit! That annoys me!
I don't mind if people add me, but yeah! I would rather get some kind of an idea of who you are, where you're coming from, and what your ententions are, before you add me. And, about the one liners, and having to intertain bored people, if you're bored, I'll talk to ya, but please, have something interesting or of substance to talk about.
Damn, Charisma, makes you kind of feel like a piece of meat, huh? Glad I'm not female. These days I pretty much add people I already know through e-mail or Livejournal. I prefer to start the conversation and I'll always ask to make sure I'm not interrupting the other person, because not all of us adjust our status all the time. I guess that's also why I don't like live chats much is the damn smalltalk. I have to re-introduce myself and then I get asked about the weather where I am. Who really gives a damn about the weather?
Yeah I know! Who cares about the weather, and yeah, it does make me feel like, as you put it, a piece of meat. Or a prize to be won. I'm Charisma, I am female, who happens to have feelings, and emotions, and care about people, and I hate to be played, by anyone, and if I play, it's because it's a mutual thing, but anyway, as I said before, I don't mind if people add me, if you're willing to treat me like the person I am, and not like the object or thing, you want me to be, to fill some desperate void, within yourself! Thank you! Lol, this was a great topic!
oh man do not get me started about sleezy guys! *screws face up* I have now learnt not to have my msn details on my msn signiture.
But speaking of Charisma's previous post, just reminded me. Um, if someone is busy, why get on msn, hello?! I personally think it must be the 24/7 netters who like to prove to the world they have a life! :)
Well, actually, i'm 1 of those people who keep my computer on 24/7 because I run servers on this machine, plus I do a lot of downloading and things like that, so yeah, I'm often busy, eating, sleeping, or simply not in the house but still signed in in the messenger, people can leave me messages while I'm not by the computer, and yes, I very much do have a life outside the net, but I don't see anything wrong with me being constantly signed in, if I'm not by the computer people will get auto responder. But what really anoys me when someone somes on MSN with their screenname something like: "I'm really pissed off and in a bad mood, don't wana talk to anyone!" Sure, we can all be in a bad mood, some people like to talk to epople they trust to make them feel better, chear them up or advise them, but if you don't wanna talk to anyone, why sign in at all? It just seems like atention seaking to me.
yep, I so know what you mean there.
and I am not saying I have a prob with doing what you're doing. I understand some ppl do that, but I guess I did more so mean when people are not on all the time, but when they do sign in they immediately set their thinggy to "busy".
sometimes, I don't like when people sign in because you talk to them, and you don't get answer back. Thats true, why signing in if you are bussy all the time? I agree with that. Or it also, anoys, me, when, they, sign in, and, disconect imediately! is that a reazon for having messenger installed in your computer? I think when people change their status for away or don't talk to you is because they are so shy, that they cannot type a letter in the conversation window, or change their names with a lot of emoticons, it makes jfw talk and talk, left paren right paren... blah, blah blah..., and you support all that anoyance to get a two letter message!
Wow, I'm so glad so many people feel the way I do. I have had 2 text conversations on msn messenger, about 2 at a time is all I can handle. When I first started talking on msn messenger, if I was talking to someone,and someone else messaged me, If I had been talking to the first person for awhile, I would tell him/her that I was being paged, in order not to be rude to either party. Well, I would sign out with the first person and concentrate solely on the new person who messaged me, only to have the second person just stop talking and leave me hanging. So now, if I'm texting with someone and someone else texts me, I just carry on both conversations as best as I can. I figure, if one person leaves me hanging, because he/she isn't as good of a multitasker as he/she thinks, I will still have someone to talk to. I can carry on a text conversationbetween 2 people, and do it halfway decent, but I absolutely can not voice chat and text chat at the same time. The only times I've tried to do that, was when I was on for the people, and these mic hogging cliques came and took over my room. If no one in the voice chat room is talking to me, then yeah, I can have a text conversation while they're into their thing. It works best for me if the person i'm talking to on msn messenger is in my room at the same time.
Or rather, i should say, when the person was in my room, because I'm not on for the people anymore. But anyway, I never created a profile on msn messenger,and I don't put it out anywhere anymore. Well, I better end this before I exceede my character limit. Have a nice evening all,
wonderwoman
Well it's time I broke my silence here, because I've had pretty much the same thing happen, because I've had quite a few people add me because they ither heard from someone that I'm reasonably good with computers, or saw my profile, and that's all they added me for in the first place. Now don't get me wrong, I do enjoy helping out wen and where I can, but it's just complete and total bullshit to add someone just for that reason alone. That's why I'm not as sociable on messanger as I was a year or two ago, and I'd like to change that, so go ahead and add me if you want, but not for silly things like computer knowledge.
Oh, I've been there. You answer one or two questions on a list or board and people start contacting you on MSN asking for free tech support. Just say you'll do everything you can to help, but they'll have to send you 100 dollars for each hour of support as well as payback for any phone charges if you have to call them. That'll get 'em. Bwahahahahaaaaa!
Oh I'm also on a few mailing lists including the jfw one, but I haven't had a swarm of people adding me from any of these lists yet, but I shutter to think that might happen. But from this day onward I'm gonna make a huge efort to be more sociable on msn like I was back in the summer of 2003.
Yeah I had to take a few people off my contact list a month ago. Reason: Add, ask a few questions then POOF. Never to see or hear again. And only for that answer and after that they just leave you. So then they take you off their list without saying anything and you gotta spend a half hour right clicking to see weather or not if the delete command is enabled and if so that means they took you off and you can do the same. So, I rarely add people these days.